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Lori Dube and Constance Bauer, long time friends, embark on an intimate journey chronicling their deep conversations about life, love, and aging. As her cover picture surely attests, Constance is more "furious" with the aging process and the way women in their third act are ghosted by society, and Lori is more "curious" about how she can lean into and learn from this aging process. In this podcast we will unpack issues that are impacting the hearts and souls of women over 60, as we walk together into the unknown of what lies ahead for us all. We hope you will join us on this journey.

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Sleep Divorce? Rethinking the Shame of Sleeping Separately

May 15, 2026 • Season 1 • Episode 19

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More couples later in life are sleeping in separate rooms and in some cases separate homes. Called "Sleep Divorce" by the media, what does this trend say about evolving ways we are thinking about sleep, intimacy, self-empowerment and the judgment of others as we age? For many women over 60, sleep can feel precious and precarious. Figuring out just the right pre-requisites for a good night's sleep is becoming more of a priority. What meaning do partners, and peers make of the desire some women feel to sleep apart, and how are women navigating the challenges and shame that may arise as a result? Join Constance and Lori for this episode when they unpack the choice couples are making to sleeps separately. And -- a new feature -- we take a call from a WADY listener about her Sleep Divorce.

Show Notes:

What is a Sleep Divorce?

How To Get a Sleep Divorce and Stay Happily Married

Can a Sleep Divorce Save Your Relationship?

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